5 Signs You Need To See A Marriage Counsellor
Having a lasting, loving, happy relationship is far more difficult than it sounds. When things get especially rough, it may be useful to seek outside help.
It can be scary to admit that you need some assistance, but it can lead to a happy relationship, so it is worth it. Seeking support is not a sign of weakness; it shows commitment to growth and a willingness to work together towards a healthier future. Here are 5 signs you may need to seek marriage counselling:
1. You Have A Recurring Argument
Many couples fight over the same things all of the time; everything from money problems to trust issues. Having a neutral 3rd party step in might be the only way to find a resolution.
Addressing the issue head-on may bring two people closer together, but it sometimes takes another person to guide them in the right direction. A counsellor can help you develop conflict-resolution strategies that prevent these arguments from escalating and damaging the relationship over time.
2. One Person Takes The Blame
Relationship problems are not generally caused by one person. Most people have negative factors they bring to the table.
If you have issues with who you are as a person, seeking outside help may be the best solution. Doing this as a couple will help you and your partner form a stronger bond. While you focus on how to take responsibility for your own emotions, your partner can work on how to support you on this journey. This balanced approach may reduce resentment and foster mutual respect.
3. One Of You Has Experienced A Major Event
Many couples seek therapy after a trauma has occurred, like a death in the family or infidelity. With that said, it is wise to look to therapy as a way to proactively handle stress. Examples of this would be planning for a new baby or getting into a long-distance relationship. When major changes occur, they can put a strain on relationships.
Seeking help before upcoming stressful events is a good way to create a solid plan for working through any issues. Counselling during transitional stages can equip you both with tools to adapt and communicate effectively, preventing misunderstandings before they arise.
4. Others Outside The Relationship Are More Supportive
It is not our partner’s responsibility to take care of your every need. They are only one person; they cannot be expected to have answers for everything. Even so, if you feel they are misunderstanding you, failing to hear you or being disrespectful, counselling may be in order. Staying silent in a relationship like this is very unhealthy. Left unchecked, this lack of communication can create emotional distance, making it even harder to reconnect in the future
5. Your Partner Would Like To See A Counsellor
No one is offended when people suggest they seek help for physical problems. Therapy is not something that should be stigmatized. If your partner suggests counselling for the two of you, this does not mean that you should become defensive or feel like the relationship is at its lowest. They may be focused on making what you have stronger than ever before. Viewing this suggestion as a shared investment in your relationship may help both of you approach counselling with openness and optimism.
Additional Insight: Counselling as a Preventative Measure
You don’t need to wait for your relationship to be “in trouble” before seeking help. Many couples use counselling as a way to strengthen their communication skills, build trust, and maintain intimacy. Just as regular health check-ups can prevent illness, regular relationship check-ins may prevent small issues from becoming major problems.
If any of these points apply to you, contact Wendy Corliss here or call her directly at 02 9972 0071 to begin your healing journey today!
Whether you’ve been together for six months or sixty years, it’s never too early—or too late—to take proactive steps towards a healthier, more connected partnership.